Masturbation: How Solo Pleasure Strengthens Desire for Two, Three, and in Swinging
At our party, where people explore swinging, threesomes (ménage), polyamory, and all forms of shared pleasure, one area is far from empty: solo pleasure.
Masturbation is a powerful path to connection. When you truly know your body and your pleasure, you bring much more quality, confidence, and intensity to experiences with two, three, or more people.
Whether you're a man or a woman, conscious masturbation is the foundation of a free and fulfilling sexuality.
Male Masturbation: More Than Just Release
Many men grow up used to quick, functional, and almost automatic masturbation. The result? Premature ejaculation, difficulty prolonging pleasure, and reduced sensitivity during partnered sex.
When practiced with intention, male masturbation becomes pleasure training:
- Edging (going to the edge and backing off) improves ejaculatory control and intensifies the orgasm.
- Exploration of the entire pelvic region, prostate, and erogenous zones beyond just the penis.
- Learning to breathe and relax during arousal.
Men who masturbate mindfully tend to last longer, feel more, and offer much more pleasure to their female and male partners. In swinging or threesomes, this confidence makes all the difference.
Female Masturbation: Self-Knowledge Is Power
Women who masturbate regularly tend to have more intense and frequent orgasms during partnered sex. Why? Because they know exactly what they like.
Female masturbation goes far beyond the clitoris (although it is the star for most women):
- Internal and external exploration.
- Use of toys (vibrators, suckers, plugs).
- Discovery of less obvious erogenous zones (neck, breasts, anus, G-spot, A-spot, etc.).
When a woman knows her body, she can guide her partner (or partners) with clarity and without shame. This turns a “good” experience into something unforgettable.
How Solo Pleasure Evolves into Collective Pleasure
- Self-knowledge → You know what truly excites you.
- Confidence → It becomes easier to ask for what you want and say what you don’t.
- Presence → You are more connected with your own body and, consequently, with the other person’s body.
- Creativity → Those who masturbate frequently tend to have more imagination and fewer blocks when trying new experiences.
Couples who encourage both individual and mutual masturbation often report greater intimacy and a more vibrant sexual desire. For many people, watching their partner pleasure themselves is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs there is.
Practical Tips for Couples
- Create a weekly “solo ritual” with plenty of time and no rush.
- Masturbate together!
- Use masturbation as foreplay before a swing encounter.
- Try masturbating while thinking about upcoming threesomes or couple-swapping experiences (the mind is the biggest sexual organ).
- Invest in good lubricants, quality toys, and a pleasant environment.
Masturbation Is Self-Love
The Ysos lifestyle values sexual freedom because those who allow themselves to know and love their own pleasure bring much more to open relationships, swinging, and polyamory.
Masturbate without guilt. Masturbate with presence. And masturbate just a little more.
Your solo pleasure is the beginning of a much richer sexual life.
